Visiting a swinger/lifestyle/ENM club for the first time can be an exciting yet nerve-wracking experience. Understanding what typically happens can help ease any apprehensions and allow you to fully enjoy the experience.

Check-In Procedure

Upon arrival, you’ll likely encounter a check-in procedure. Don’t be intimidated by this; it’s completely normal. The staff and members are usually very welcoming and understanding of first-timers.

Cover Charges

There may be a cover charge, which varies depending on whether you’re a single man, a couple, or a single woman. Single men often have the highest cover charge, while couples usually pay a medium fee. Single women may have a low or nonexistent cover charge.

Dress Code

Some clubs are fully nude, while others allow any type of clothing. If you’re new, they may offer you a tour of the premises, although this isn’t always the case.

Club Atmosphere

Inside the club, you’ll find people mingling and socializing. Some couples may engage in sexual activities, usually with their partners. It’s common to see a mix of excitement and nervousness among club-goers.

Alcohol Policy

Alcohol is typically allowed in these clubs, but they usually don’t have liquor licenses, so it’s often BYOB (bring your own alcohol). Consider bringing something you don’t mind leaving behind, as you might not want to go back for it.

Interactions with Others

People will likely approach you if you appear friendly and approachable. Some may be interested in a sexual interaction, while others may simply want to chat. Most people aren’t sure what they want until they start talking to you.

Single Men at the Club

Clubs that allow single men will have many of them. They may be extra friendly, especially toward women or couples. While this may seem “creepy,” it’s often a strategy to increase their chances of being invited to participate in fantasies.

Club Facilities

Most clubs provide condoms, lube, towels, and other cleanup supplies. Some clubs may also provide a safety talk to ensure that everyone understands the rules and expectations.

Relax and Enjoy

Remember, there’s never any pressure to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Just relax, enjoy yourself, and have fun. After all, it’s just sex!