Attending your first swinger party can be a mix of nervousness and excitement. You may be wondering what you’ll see, how awkward it might be, and whether your curiosity will outweigh your butterflies. Here’s what you can expect:

Check-In and Rules

Upon arrival, there will likely be a check-in process where hosts ensure you’re supposed to be there, collect any cover fees, and explain the rules of the club or party. These rules typically center around consent and acceptable behavior.

Atmosphere and Guests

Inside, you’ll find couples mingling. Some may know each other, while others may be on a first date. Everyone is usually friendly and open to small talk, especially with newcomers. You’ll encounter people of various ages, body types, and looks, much like a regular party.

Playrooms and Activities

Later in the evening, some guests may move to playrooms for sexual activities. Most people will be with their partner, but some may be swapping with others. People often chat to gauge chemistry, and the topic of what kind of play they’re looking for might come up. If someone asks if you “play” or if you’re “in the lifestyle,” they’re inquiring about your interest in having sex with them. Be explicit about your desires and boundaries.

Rejection and Communication

Like any party, you might experience rejection, which can be tough. It’s important to remember that rejection is normal and doesn’t reflect on your worth. Worse than rejection is if you and your partner are not aligned on what you want. It’s crucial to communicate openly with your partner before, during, and after the event.

Overall, your first swinger party can be a thrilling and eye-opening experience. As long as you and your partner are on the same page and communicate clearly, you’re likely to have a positive and memorable time.